The first time I tried was in 2004, almost exactly 10 years earlier. There wasn't as much information out there and not many people were doing it back then so I relaxed again after 2 years.
So in March 2014, when I decided to big chop for the second time, the way I would look played no part in my thought process. I mainly questioned myself about my relaxed hair journey. Was I giving up? Was it time to call it quits. I was really unsure about that mainly. I did not want to quit.
But indeed, a journey of 5 years is long enough. I learned everything I could learn about keeping relaxed hair healthy, it was time to try something new. So, once I decided that I wasn't giving up on the other journey but simply evolving as a person, the decision to big chop was fairly easy to make.
I told my husband who was very excited (I had been talking about it for a while), called my stylist to book an appointment and that was it. I loved the results right away and knew that this journey would bring me joy and fulfilment.
The other statement I get is:"Short hair is not for everyone..." That may be true, but not because it won't suit you. It's really only because some people just don't want to accept it as a suitable style for them. Only a matter of taste.
I honestly wonder... You would never say that about boys. He can't wear his hair short, it won't suit him. And before anyone says anything, having short hair does not make you look like a boy.
Anyone can do anything with their hair. Society has decided that man are more acceptable with short hair and women with longer hair. It's confidence...
I'm an average woman. I was insecure as a pre-teen and as an adolescent. My confidence grew as I aged and realize we are all in the same boat, all have the same struggles and we all want to be loved and accepted.
So as a young women, I started caring less and less what people thought of me and more about myself. Not to say that I am all about the me, myself and I... Not at all. I care what my husband and my parents and close family think of me. And for the life of me, I still feel like I have to please people. I don't like to hurt people's feelings. But when it comes to my look, I really don't ask myself what people think.
So, when going natural, the most important is to think of yourself only. The good reasons to do it: