Wednesday, November 19, 2014

8 months post BC

Wow!  I will be 8 months post BC this week. How does time really fly so fast? My next blog post was going to be about how much I am truly enjoying my natural journey this time compared to the last. I definitely am…

I love how healthy my hair feels. I love how easy it is to take care of it.  So far, I haven’t had any setbacks or any feelings remotely resembling discouragement. Of course, at this point in my journey, when I was relaxed, it was the same…  The honeymoon period lasted at least 9 months for me back then. So, we’ll see in December how my hair does. But honestly, I don't foresee any setbacks or boredom any time soon.

But really how is my hair doing?

Well, let’s see…  My hair is doing well. My hair is in the kinky category. It can curl, tight curls the size of a pencil or smaller. It grows at a regular rate. I haven’t measured as a natural but when I was relaxed, it was growing at about a half an inch per month. So this is what I’m guessing for my hair now.

For the first six months of my journey, I hardly ever detangled my hair. I saw shed hairs (quite a few) every time I did my hair. They would stick to my hands while I applied my products. Now, I detangle once a week on wash day. The rest of the week, I cowash without detangling. The little ball of shed hair is small and mostly the same size every week.

It's hard to detangle from the bottom up with my length so I am extremely careful when I do it. I use a wide tooth shower comb and detangle only when hair is wet and loaded with conditioner.  I've use the same method and shower comb when I was relaxed.

Experiments so far

In all honesty, I am pretty lazy when it comes to my hair. I have three kids and by the time I have time to take care of my hair, I am just too tired to even try anything.

I did my big chop at the end of winter, beginning of spring (last March).  It was cold then, but I managed my wash and gos easily because my hair would dry super fast when it was short. So, I did wash and gos all spring, summer and fall. Now, winter is starting and I've been trying out a few things on Saturday nights.

Perm-rod set

I don't have nearly enough perm-rods to do my whole head. Nevertheless, I thought it would be fun to try this style but I only did the front of my head. My first impression on this, I think I would like this style but I have a really sensitive area in my scalp (the crown) and pulling my hair taught there is difficult. If the perm-rods aren't tight to the scalp, the roots are really puffy. With shorter hair the roots show a lot. I would have to either perfect my technique or wait until my hair is longer to do it. But I did like the results on the areas that turn out good.


I did try to straighten my hair a couple of time. Both times, I just gave up after a section or two. It takes too long compared to my relaxed hair, but I am impressed. My hair straightens really nicely. I have to use the proper technique for smoother ends but other than that, it was so soft but strong. 

It is way too short for me to spend this much time on the style. I am ear length right now. I'll wait until I am shoulder length or almost there to straighten my hair for real. Oh, and I forgot to mention, no heat damage...
My hair two days after straightening the front

Twist out

I can definitely twist my hair. I am lazy, like I said before, and it seems like a never-ending task. Still, I was able to twist half my head while watching a movie this weekend. It turned out really nice. I will try it again, for real this time, next weekend. Apparently, I have to make sure I use the right products for hold to give me second and third day hair.  I will do my hair on Saturday night sleep on it, rock it for Sunday morning. And then see how long I can hold the style without doing much to it (like re-twisting).

What I don't like about my journey so far

Single strand knots!!!!!  OMG! Every time I touch my hair I feel one! I can't take it!!!!! I had never encountered anything like this as a relaxed girl. And, I have to say, I don't remember feeling them in my daughters’ hair. They plague me. They have been for a long time.

I think they are caused by my signature style, my wash and go. For this reason, I have to move on from this style a.s.a.p. Those things are a pain in my butt. I have to stop myself from pulling on my hair and ripping the ends where I feel the “ssk”. I know it’s wrong, but sometimes I can’t help myself. I'm praying I get over this really soon.

Other than that, there isn’t anything else I don’t like about my journey. It’s pretty cool. And I do love taking the time to write about it or taking a picture to document it.

I didn’t take any pics of my experiments this weekend (sad face)… Next experiment, I won't forget...

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Relaxed hair journey - 1st trim since my beginning (almost 1 year) - March 13, 2010

I went to my stylist yesterday. I needed a trim (last one was April 9th 2009). He sees me like every 6-9 months (11 months this time), but he is so nice and professional and supportive. I really liked it.

So I had to trim. I knew it and I went for it. I will try to trim every other relaxer from now on. That's every 6 months approximately.

The way he trimmed, I could tell I didn't lose much length. But I asked him to take off a little bit because of some breakage I am growing out. He told me: "keep doing what you're doing and be very gentle with the area where the breakage occurred. It'll grow back. And when it's at a length you're confortable with, we'll even everything out." I love him...

The salon where he works is located near my office. They are so professional that I can drop in on my lunch break and be back to work in time before the hour is up.

I was so afraid to cut my hair, but I realize my fear is irrational. I love neat ends, always have. Plus if I moisturize and seal properly and go easy on the flat iron, my ends can stay nice longer. Every now and then, I'll shape up the look so it grows out nicely.

My pic is not a length check pic (it's curled). That is the way he styled it after the trim. I know it's a little shorter, but not that much. I'll post a comparison on my next wash day.

I got so many compliments on that 'do, I'll try to imitate it on special occasions. I love curls...

Last relaxer of 2009 - 19dec09

I went to a salon this time. I was tired of battling under processed hair. I will go back every other relaxer because she's ok. Not perfection, but I can talk to her and tell her what I prefer.

It started badly because I forgot my relaxer tub at home so I had to use what she had. I was not really worried because it was a relaxer I had already used before, but it was no lye and I started to use lye.

I told her that I texlax and I didn't want to leave the relaxer on too long. She was good about that, but my hair is straighter than when I do it. Then she rinsed and did the reconstructor.

My hair is nice, but I would not let her do my hair every week like my sister in law. I didn't want a heat pass but she couldn't help but do a blow out. I told her very lightly, but still...

She said my ends are ok, no need to trim. You tell me...

She supports people who stretch 12 weeks or more. I like that about her.

Overall I can say that I can't sit here and complain abut my visit to the salon. She did my hair the best way she knew how. She seems to be full of good intentions. It just that time are changing and more people are noticing that hair care is not what it used to be.

I treat myself to a hair salon visit 3-4 times a year at most. Otherwise, I see what I'm doing for my hair is working and I will keep at it and take care of it myself.

Good hair service overall. She used Moroccan Oil on my hair and I love it. I'll try to find it on sale...

My ends were bumped so I tried to straighten them real fast to take the pic, but they're still not straight. I'll try again later or tomorrow and post them in my length check album for sure...